Nothing would ever come from something easy, Be Strong! At least, that is something that people would say when we are struggling with our problems. They say that just to console us and make us stronger. That’s a good thing to do, but there’s no changing in us even after we heard that for quite several times. You are still grieving because of your problems.
I’ve just lost my father recently. He passed away in my room, my Mom was shocked to find he had fallen to the floor breathless. It was all happening so suddenly, without any words, without any signs, death just took him like that. Until now, I still couldn’t believe it, I’m still denying it until last friday. I heard sermon from my pastor, “Dead man would never come back or remain in this world as a spirit, for he will be in the third layer of heaven waiting for the judgement day. Everyone of us will be there too when we dead as a decent man.” Learning about this, me and my mother decided to stop grieving because we believe that we all three will all meet again someday and life goes on. Survival is the most important thing for the two of us now.
This is what I learn from my mourning time:
- Love your parents when they are alive. You have only one chance, one life to make them happy because when we failed to do that, regret will always come later. When it comes, everything will already be late. We, humans, always do this thing no matter how much we already heard about this or even watch some emotional videos about loving our parents. Sad but true.
- When I see the love around me, people who love me and my family, who dedicated his/her weekend to come and help serving guests at the funeral house, I was touched. Suddenly, I felt that my days are going to be better in the future because there are still a lot of people, young and old that love me and my Mom so much. Hence, I would like you all to believe, even it’s like no one loves or cares about you, I want you to know, there is and there will be, so hang in there.
- The most important thing isn’t filling your life with the idea of being left by someone but rather making sure that your future will still remain bright and as you hope for. You will walk your life happier than ever. Don’t cling on to the grief but learn to let it go. Trust me, it will make your grief gradually gone and when you think back someday, you’ll just get the hint of missing them but not making you powerless throughout the day. This too shall pass.
Hopefully, this will help and remind you that although our beloved person has passed away, our life still goes on and it’s up to you to make it right.