3 Lessons Learned in Mourning Time

Nothing would ever come from something easy, Be Strong! At least, that is something that people would say when we are struggling with our problems. They say that just to console us and make us stronger. That’s a good thing to do, but there’s no changing in us even after we heard that for quite several times. You are still grieving because of your problems.

I’ve just lost my father recently. He passed away in my room, my Mom was shocked to find he had fallen to the floor breathless. It was all happening so suddenly, without any words, without any signs, death just took him like that. Until now, I still couldn’t believe it, I’m still denying it until last friday. I heard sermon from my pastor, “Dead man would never come back or remain in this world as a spirit, for he will be in the third layer of heaven waiting for the judgement day. Everyone of us will be there too when we dead as a decent man.” Learning about this, me and my mother decided to stop grieving because we believe that we all three will all meet again someday and life goes on. Survival is the most important thing for the two of us now.

This is what I learn from my mourning time:

  1. Love your parents when they are alive. You have only one chance, one life to make them happy because when we failed to do that, regret will always come later. When it comes, everything will already be late. We, humans, always do this thing no matter how much we already heard about this or even watch some emotional videos about loving our parents. Sad but true.
  2. When I see the love around me, people who love me and my family, who dedicated his/her weekend to come and help serving guests at the funeral house, I was touched. Suddenly, I felt that my days are going to be better in the future because there are still a lot of people, young and old that love me and my Mom so much. Hence, I would like you all to believe, even it’s like no one loves or cares about you, I want you to know, there is and there will be, so hang in there.
  3. The most important thing isn’t filling your life with the idea of being left by someone but rather making sure that your future will still remain bright and as you hope for. You will walk your life happier than ever. Don’t cling on to the grief but learn to let it go. Trust me, it will make your grief gradually gone and when you think back someday, you’ll just get the hint of missing them but not making you powerless throughout the day. This too shall pass.

Hopefully, this will help and remind you that although our beloved person has passed away, our life still goes on and it’s up to you to make it right.

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Mental & Emotional Corner: Positive Words Can Change Your Life

“a single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.” – from the book “Words Can Change Your Brain”

“Hi, good morning! Have a nice day.”

Do you know how powerful this one sentence? This one sentence from the right person could significantly impact your day in a positive manner.

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Please Forgive Me

I wrote this song for my mother, the only one who will never disappoint me.

Suddenly, I want someone to embrace me,
My body is so tired but this heavy heart makes me can’t sleep at night,
Suddenly, I’m thinking of home,
because I’m like a stray bird who flew away from your house.
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Do I have any Best Friends ?

“When your best friend loves you, the way they talk about you will be different. You will feel safe and comfortable when you are with him.”

Everyone knows that we, human, are a social being. We need someone to accompany us all our life. There are always some people whom you consider as friends. Moreover from all friends that you have already had, there are several people whom you consider as best friends. You are lucky if you have several best friends, some of us might only have one or two best friends. You can’t regard someone as your best friends that easy. It needs proofs and approval from the other person whom you considered best friends.

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Mental & Emotional Corner: Feeling Unneeded and Lost

“You sometimes think you want to disappear, but all you really want is to be found.”

Do you ever feel not needed by your peers? When they are planning a trip to somewhere awesome they just don’t realize that you are there. They never bother to call you. If you are an extroverted person, then maybe you could approach them like it’s nothing, but when you are an introverted person, you will feel separated from them psychologically; like they exclude you from their inner circle indirectly. Like when they are all taking pictures but you are not invited, so you are pretending to be busy all the time. Like when you, yourself, don’t know which circle you are actually belong to and no one give a damn about that. I know how you feel, it hurts.

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The Ultimate Goal: How to Live Like Him (Pt. 2)

In my previous post, I shared how we could try to live like Him, but do you know that everything in life has process? When we try to live like him, we will go through processes, for example, if you want to build a table from a log, you have to cut the log, shape it, nail it, and chisel it to make it like a table. Do you realize that we are like that log, He wanted us to be a beautiful table, so He put us through the processes like being nailed, saw, and chiseled. Is it an enjoyable process? Is it a short process? No, it’s long and painful processes, but at the end of the story, the table will be beautiful. It’s not impossible that we could live like Him.

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The Ultimate Goal: How to Live Like Him (Pt. 1)

In this life, we are always thought that we have to do good in every aspects of our life, but as we grow up, there are many toxic factors that will make sure that we would never achieve goodness in everything. It’s all coming back to us, whether we really want to have fun without considering anything or we tailor every aspects of our life to be a life suit that could save us one day. As a Christian, I was taught how to life my life like God, How to be like God?

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