3 Lessons Learned in Mourning Time

Nothing would ever come from something easy, Be Strong! At least, that is something that people would say when we are struggling with our problems. They say that just to console us and make us stronger. That’s a good thing to do, but there’s no changing in us even after we heard that for quite several times. You are still grieving because of your problems.

I’ve just lost my father recently. He passed away in my room, my Mom was shocked to find he had fallen to the floor breathless. It was all happening so suddenly, without any words, without any signs, death just took him like that. Until now, I still couldn’t believe it, I’m still denying it until last friday. I heard sermon from my pastor, “Dead man would never come back or remain in this world as a spirit, for he will be in the third layer of heaven waiting for the judgement day. Everyone of us will be there too when we dead as a decent man.” Learning about this, me and my mother decided to stop grieving because we believe that we all three will all meet again someday and life goes on. Survival is the most important thing for the two of us now.

This is what I learn from my mourning time:

  1. Love your parents when they are alive. You have only one chance, one life to make them happy because when we failed to do that, regret will always come later. When it comes, everything will already be late. We, humans, always do this thing no matter how much we already heard about this or even watch some emotional videos about loving our parents. Sad but true.
  2. When I see the love around me, people who love me and my family, who dedicated his/her weekend to come and help serving guests at the funeral house, I was touched. Suddenly, I felt that my days are going to be better in the future because there are still a lot of people, young and old that love me and my Mom so much. Hence, I would like you all to believe, even it’s like no one loves or cares about you, I want you to know, there is and there will be, so hang in there.
  3. The most important thing isn’t filling your life with the idea of being left by someone but rather making sure that your future will still remain bright and as you hope for. You will walk your life happier than ever. Don’t cling on to the grief but learn to let it go. Trust me, it will make your grief gradually gone and when you think back someday, you’ll just get the hint of missing them but not making you powerless throughout the day. This too shall pass.

Hopefully, this will help and remind you that although our beloved person has passed away, our life still goes on and it’s up to you to make it right.

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5 Signs of Wise People

People are trying hard to be clever. They go to the universities, attend courses, and do internship just to get those knowledge to let them go further in the cognitive zone. They often forget that cleverness is not all. Clever people could become a toxic person if they don’t use their cleverness in the right way. So, people always say they want to become wiser once they get older and older. But what is the quality of being a wiser person? There are 5 characteristics that wise people have or should have: Continue reading “5 Signs of Wise People”

The Last Message: The Story of the Lost Daughter

Today, I listened to a great sermon but it’s not just the sermon that’s good but the story too. Here’s my version of this great story. I named it “The Last Message.”

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Mental & Emotional Corner: 8 Signs You are a Lazy Person

“Laziness is sickness to success.” -Jonathan Celestin

I felt blessed this Sunday because I didn’t just get to listen to a great sermon but I’d rather acknowledged it as teaching about a way of life. This week theme was laziness, it’s aftermath, and the solutions. We will always have to face our own laziness for lifetime, It would be a lifetime battle inside your own self. I have never found any human who never dealt with laziness. It’s actually a common thing. Today i will write more about laziness.

LAZY |  la·zy  \ˈlā-zē\
adjective
The quality of being unwilling to work or use energy; idleness:

From the definition itself, we could directly understand that it was not a positive word. According to researchers from Florida Gulf Coast University, lazy person is a sign that he/she has high intelligence. Well, it could be the only thing you would be proud of from having habit of being lazy. Although you are a brainer, without hard work or physical activities, it could lead to sedentary lifestyle. Being a couch potato is not cool and it can’t buy you a Ferrari or even an iPhone 7. If you have this kind of lifestyle, maybe it’s time to wake up from your daydream unless you are already a billionaire with huge passive income. Even then, no billionaire had this lifestyle. So, wake up!

8 signs that you are a lazy person:

Takes a long time to do something habitually
When you have the habit of doing something and it takes significantly more time than anybody else, there are chances that you are a lazy person. I mean if you are told to do something, you will do it almost immediately, but it takes unreasonably long time to finish the task. Maybe you are scrolling down through your Instagram timeline in the middle of making presentation materials.

Procrastinate
When you are given tasks at hand, you will probably do it at the last day or last minute. Just because you don’t want to do it, not because you don’t have time for it, you have plenty of them. So, if this one happened to you, beware!

Likes to break promises
Breaking promise is a sensitive topic. Nobody likes when the other one breaks the promises they have made together. People will trust you less the next time you make promise with them. I know sometimes you can’t control some conditions that force you to break promises, but if the reasons are logical, believe me they will want to keep the promises by moving the date to future time.

Likes to sleep
Sleeping might be the thing that all human needs but when you have long sleeping duration, you might be a lazy person. You want to sleep all the time, not because you need sleeping but because you love the feeling of not doing anything.

Passive
This one might be a little subjective. A passive person doesn’t always mean he’s a lazy person, but maybe he’s just shy. This shy person might be more diligent than any of us. Just look at them from their works. In my opinion, a passive person is someone who don’t want to do anything about the task, he’s just taking anything for granted and let anything past just like that without any sign of doing any effort.

Don’t have the desire for self-development
Lazy people just don’t want to grow, they are comfortable with their current condition and without any harsh condition, they wouldn’t waste their time for self-development. We always have to be the better version of us. Small changes everyday will turn into big changes in years. So, keep digging what’s your talent and do something about it for your own good.

Bossy
They like to boss around while they are doing nothing. Lazy persons like to assign everyone with their tasks, but they wouldn’t do anything to follow up or help them in any way possible. Leaders give tasks but they will manage each of the member to give their best for the task, while lazy person don’t mind what the outcome would be.

Likes reasoning
Lazy people like to give thousand reasons on anything they wouldn’t do or they just want to avoid any responsibilities that will given to them because they are just being lazy. If the reasoning is logical then people will accept them, but if not, he’s just lazy.

“Lazy Persons won’t deserve any kind of success, unless they change.”

Doctor Strange – Movie Review (No Spoiler)

“You think you know how the world works. You think this material universe is all there is. What if I told you the reality you know is one of many?” – The Ancient One

This morning, an email popped up and I saw that Doctor Strange will be shown at the cinema starting tonight. The email made me totally happy because I planned to watch this for a long time. My last movie was a superhero kind of movie but it was already like three or four months ago since I watched it. Yesterday, I went to the cinema near my neighborhood. Surprisingly, the theater was not full at all, many vacant seats were available to be taken except they were not. I mean this is a freaking Marvel movie. Who doesn’t watch Marvel?

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Mental & Emotional Corner: The Story About The Boy in Grey Beanie

Repent, then, and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord – Acts 3:19 (New International Version)

Last Sunday, I went to church as usual but today was different. I was really blessed to meet a person who inspired me really much but the funny thing was, it’s not the pastor but the member of the church, a boy who looked like in his high school or college years. At first, because he was seated in front of me, I saw the boy only from his back and I said to myself, “He is stylish.” Because my fashion style was somewhat similar to him, street style with long denim shirt, jeans, slip ons, and a grey beanie. I was like thinking to myself why did he have to wear beanie inside a church, it’s not that cold or winter season, I couldn’t fathom why but I just let it slid away.

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The Touching Message Behind Kelly Clarkson’s Piece by Piece Lyrics

Clarkson concluded that she’s “not angry” with her father anymore. “I’m 33 years old, I’m a grown woman. But it’s more of that thing where you can try your hardest to salvage relationships — and I did — but at the end of the day, if you keep getting hurt by someone because they just don’t know how to properly love people, it’s just not worth it,” she concluded. “It’s not worth the strain in your heart and it starts to bleed into your other relationships and it becomes super dysfunctional.”

I just found out a beautiful and inspirational song which is Kelly Clarkson ‘Piece by Piece’ (Idol Version). Actually, the song was in her last album but it has more upbeat feel to it before. This Idol version came after her performance in American Idol last season finale. The performance moved the judges and audiences, even i almost cried. When a song conveyed to audience with sincerest heart, even the most arrogant person could break into tears. This is the performance i was talking about:

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